I too feel that I am becoming a mistress to his own career. That said, Mormons have learned to have fun without alcohol and often have to wait until drinkers are well-oiled and loosened up to join in the dopey-ness.
It's like saying I know how to treat you respectfully buuutt I don't feel like it. I met him today and we talked about what he wants to do in the future.
What am I getting myself into.
If she expresses interest in converting, be prepared to talk about your beliefs, and help her find ways to learn about and follow them.